What if nothing is working?

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, the strategies and supports we’ve put in place are just not working for an autistic child.

They might still be experiencing challenging behaviours, struggling at school, having difficulty making friends, experiencing mental health issues or any other range of things. 

When our usual strategies aren't working, it's time to step back and think about what needs changing. This isn't about starting from scratch but instead fine-tuning the supports and approaches we already have in place. Here, we break down some practical steps to make this process clearer and more manageable.

Reassessing 

First off, look at what's currently being done. Ask yourself: Are these strategies still fitting the child’s needs, or do they need an update?

For example, if a child has moved to a new class or faced significant changes at home, these could impact how well existing strategies work. It’s about recognising these changes and determining how to adjust the support to match.

Keeping things consistent

Consistency is key. It’s important that the child receives the same approach across different settings – home, school, or during outings. If everyone involved in the child’s care uses the same methods and communicates regularly, it’s easier for the child to understand what's expected of them and to feel secure in their routines.

Evaluating skills and support

It’s also worth considering whether the child has the skills needed to meet the expectations set for them. This isn’t just about academic skills but also the emotional, social and independence skills. Maybe the goals need to be shifted to better match where the child is right now. Having the right tools is important, but feeling understood and supported is equally crucial in any environment.

Follow the child’s lead

Paying close attention to what the child naturally gravitates towards can offer great insights into what they are interested in or motivated by. Using a particular activity or topic they love as a springboard for learning and interaction can lead to better engagement. It’s like using their interests as stepping stones to broader learning and socialisation opportunities.

Reviewing the routine and sensory supports

Routine provides a comforting structure, so ensuring the child has a stable routine is beneficial. Also, check if any sensory supports need to be updated. Sensory sensitivities can change, and ensuring that the child’s environment is sensory-friendly can make a big difference in their comfort and ability to focus.

Seeking additional help

If things still aren't working after making adjustments, it may be time to seek additional help. This could involve consulting with your existing therapy team or seeking a new therapist or specialist who can offer a fresh perspective or provide new strategies. It’s about broadening the support network when needed to find what works best for the child.

Consider alternative options 

If you have tried all the strategies mentioned above and your child is still struggling, it may be time to consider an alternative option. You could consider changing their class or school or trying a new therapist or approach that could lead to a more positive outcome. Whatever the situation, it is important to carefully weigh your options, consult with your child if appropriate, seek input from your support network, and make a well-informed decision.